Saturday

Marketing to Survivors of Domestic Violence

It appears there is an entire industry that profits from the misery of women who have been in abusive relationships and are desperately seeking justice in the court system that is supposed to protect them and their children. For many of them, that justice will never come because they are unaware that with all the knowledge and understanding they are seeking for themselves, the system which holds the power and makes the decisions could give a flying fuck about them and the books they are reading.

What purpose does a book on domestic violence and the law serve if it is not a required reading for every family law judge?

What purpose does this book serve if the judges are not required to follow the laws that are referenced? If the judges are not held accountable for their actions?

What purpose does this book serve if a book with opposing ideas (ie parity in domestic violence) is being promoted and distributed to judges simulataneously? A book which confirms beliefs that they already have and thus subjects them to confirmation bias?

How many books must we come up with before mothers get their children back? Will we need a second edition?

Are these books any different from the ones that came out decades ago, when this same fight was still going on?

Who is advertising this book? And to whom? It seems that the mothers are the ones doing all the marketing for these books, in hopes that some attorney, or some social worker will take heed. Mothers are doing the work of promoting the books without getting a percentage of the sales. This scenario isn't even as good as Amway/Quixtar; there is no small kickback because the only reward that is worthy, is the return of her children.

I respect those who take the time--which may be years--of compiling, processing, and sorting information so that it is together and accessible. Your efforts ARE worthy and you do deserve to be monetarily rewarded--especially if you are a survivor yourself. We all need income to survive. However, this is not the end all be all and is not and will not garner the results that mothers need. Unfortunately, I think you already know this. You need to acknowledge that the problem is much greater than judges, attorneys, social workers, GALs, and CPS not knowing the law, or its applications, because as they say,
Ignorantia juris non excusat
And if we hold this to be true, then what we are dealing with is system that knows exactly what it is doing. A system which is profit motivated and supported by our tax dollars. A system which is inherently biased against women because those who run it do not have our best interest in mind.

Let us, advocates and those who the system has failed to protect and has destroyed our lives, remove the funding and boycott this system until it restores human rights to women and their children.


Fiscal YearOPDIVGrantee NameAward TitleSum of Actions
2010 ACF Archuleta County Department of Human Services PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 200,000 
2010 ACF BARAGA-HOUGHTON-KEWEENAW CHILD DEVELOPMENT BOARD, INC FATHERS TO DADS: A PROJECT TO TRANSITION COPPER COUNTRY FATHERS INTO RESPONSIBLE PARENTS PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF BOAT PEOPLE S.O.S. INC. PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOODROAD TO INDEPENDENCE THROUGH SAVINGS AND EDUCATION IN VA(RISE-VA) $ 250,000 
2010 ACF CENTERFORCE HEALTHY MARRIAGE AND RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD PROJECT $ 481,555 
2010 ACF CHILD & FAMILY RESOURCES INC ARIZONA CENTER FOR RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 500,000 
2010 ACF CHILD & FAMILY SERVICES OF NEW HAMPSHIRE PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 315,830 
2010 ACF CHILD ABUSE COUNCIL, INC. PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF CHILD DEVLOPMENT RESOURCES, INC. PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF CHILDREN'S FRIEND AND SERVICE PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD-DADS MAKING A DIFFERENCEPRIORITY AREA 3, LEVEL 1 $ 250,000 
2010 ACF CHILDREN`S INSTITUTE , INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 500,000 
2010 ACF CHILDREN`S INSTITUTE , INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD, COMMUNITY ACCESS PROGRAM $ 1,000,000 
2010 ACF CHW DBA CALIFORNIA HOSPITAL MEDICAL CENTER PROMOTING REOPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF CIRCLE OF PARENTS PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD COMMUNITY ACCESS PROGRAM $ 1,000,000 
2010 ACF CO DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICES PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD COMMUNITY ACCESS PROGRAM $ 2,000,000 
2010 ACF COOK INLET TRIBAL COUNCIL, INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 418,832 
2010 ACF COUNCIL ON PREVENTION & EDUCATION SUBSTANCES, INC JEFFERSON COUNTY FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE PRIORITY 4 $ 499,968 
2010 ACF CT ST DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 1,000,000 
2010 ACF Comprehensive Youth Services of Fresno, Inc. PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD - DADS PROGRAM $ 250,000 
2010 ACF DC DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICES DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE $ 300,000 
2010 ACF Denver Indian Family Resource Center PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 203,603 
2010 ACF Detroit Workforce Development Department PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 500,000 
2010 ACF Employment Opportunity & Training Center of Northeaster PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 223,808 
2010 ACF Exchange Club Center for the Prevention of Child Abuse RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD CLASSES WITH INCARCERATED FATHERS. CONCURRENT WORK WITH MOTHER/CARETAKER OF CHILD, TO LEARN RESP $ 242,822 
2010 ACF FAMILY & CHILDREN'S SERVICE, INC. F&CS PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD PROJECT $ 250,000 
2010 ACF FIRST A M E CHILD DEVELOPMENT CENTER PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF Family Services of Westchester, Inc. FATHERS COUNT PRIORITY AREA 2:RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD MULTIPLY ACTIVITY GRANTS LEVEL 2 $ 497,812 
2010 ACF GA ST DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN RESOURCES PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 225,000 
2010 ACF GOODWILL INDUSTRIES INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 500,000 
2010 ACF GOODWILL INDUSTRIES OF CENTRAL TEXAS, INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF GOODWILL INDUSTRIES OF PITTSBURGH PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 225,000 
2010 ACF GWINNETT CHILDRENS SHELTER PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF HEALTHY START, INC. HSI RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD LEVEL 1 - A COORDINATED EFFORT TO RECRUIT AND ENROLL FATHERS AND EDUCATE THE COMMUNITY. $ 900,000 
2010 ACF Healthy Families/Thriving Communities Collaborative Cou PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 500,000 
2010 ACF Indiana Department of Correction IDOC APPLICATION FOR THE PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD GRANT FOR THE PREP PROGRAM $ 399,897 
2010 ACF Indiana Department of Correction PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 249,715 
2010 ACF Indiana Youth Institute PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD COMMUNITY ACCESS PROGRAM $ 998,999 
2010 ACF Kanawha Institute for Social Research & Action, Inc. KISRA FATHERHOOD PROGRAM $ 499,054 
2010 ACF LATIN AMERICAN YOUTH CENTER PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 250,000 
2010 ACF LUTHERAN SOCIAL SERVICES OF SOUTH DAKOTA FATHERHOOD AND FAMILIES $ 500,000 
2010 ACF Metro United Methodist Urban Ministry SAN DIEGO'S RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE $ 268,349 
2010 ACF NATIONAL ORGANIZATION OF CONCERNED BLACK MEN, INC PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD, PRIORITY AREA 3 $ 250,000 
2010 ACF NEW MEXICO STATE UNIVERSITY REGENTS PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 218,335 
2010 ACF NOOKSACK INDIAN TRIBE REVITALIZING FATHERHOOD PROGRAM $ 172,640 
2010 ACF Native Pride THE GOOD ROAD OF LIFE: RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 297,964 
2010 ACF New York Youth At Risk, Inc. PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 225,000 
2010 ACF OAKLAND FAMILY SERVICES PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 200,181 
2010 ACF OAKLAND/LIVINGSTON HUMAN SERVICES AGENCY PROMOTING RESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD $ 368,555