Tuesday

Part 4: Questions for Richard Warshak and His Parental Alienation Syndrome...or Divorce Poison...or Whatever

Dear Dr. Warshak:

In a porn sting, FBI raids home of parent and finds images of child porn including "bestiality, bondage and other sexually deviant acts."

The parent spends time in prison.

The parent gets out of prison and files for full custody because the other parent didn't bring the kids to prison visitation.

Is this what parental alienation looks like?

http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2010/12/dad-convicted-of-possessing-obscene.html

Wednesday

Part 3: Questions for Richard Warshak and His Parental Alienation Syndrome...or Divorce Poison...or Whatever

If "parental alienation" existed in the the intact family (which you theorists have verified that it does occur in absence of divorce), why should it be such a focus now that the parents are separated/divorced?

And who are you going to rely on to tell you the truth about what occurred within the family:

the "alienated parent" who may have an agenda,

the "alienator" who has no obligation to tell you a damn thing,

the child who YOU are now "bringing into adult conflict,"

or people outside the family who often don't have a clue what is going on (as evidenced by the many murders that occur where the neighbors and community thought that the perp was such a nice guy

If no counseling was mandated during the relationship why should it be ORDERED after one? How does this not step on parental/family and children's rights?

And don't you think this is creating a big business for the court system? For example, in some states, parents must attend a mandatory divorce class before the paperwork is finalized. Who is raking in all this money?

Tuesday

Part 2: Questions for Richard Warshak and His Parental Alienation Syndrome...or Divorce Poison...or Whatever

Dear Dr. Warshak,

I have been accused of parental alienation because my adolescent child won't visit his father, my ex husband. If my son's father is an alcoholic and chronic cheater that is into child porn, and my son knows about at least 2 out of 3 of what I mentioned, how do you suggest that I promote the relationship between father and son in order to remove the parental alienation label? I mean seriously, it's not my fault that my ex is a sick fucking asshole. I just don't want it to rub off on my our son (<--see, I'm trying!).

Monday

Questions for Richard Warshak and His Parental Alienation Syndrome...or Divorce Poison...or Whatever

Dear Dr. Warshak,

Dr. Amy J. Baker's research confirmed that "parental alienation" occurs in intact families--that is, families that have not been through a divorce or separation. I am sure this must have been found in other literature as well.

My question is, if parental alienation is a mental health diagnosis serious enough to warrant inclusion in the DSM V, how do you propose to treat it when the parents are still "together"? Will they get family counseling through your Bridges program? Who will be responsible for paying for it? What if the alienator doesn't cooperate? What if the child doesn't cooperate?

Or, is this not parental alienation (it definitely isn't "Divorce Poision," is it?)?